Simple Things

Sometimes we fail to realize that simple things can change someones whole day. A simple hello here or a handshake there can go along way. In today's society we are very judgmental but we shouldn't judge a book by its cover. You never know anyone's story until you take the time to talk to them. That person you see sitting alone all the time, speak to them. The person you see working alone all the time, lend a hand. Every little bit counts. You could be having a bad day yourself but just by helping someone else yours could be that much better. always remember, Don't Watch It, Stop It!

To This Day

What every victim goes through. A poem about growing up being bullied.

Do Something

The video posted here is one of my personal favorites. It was put together by a teen girl who faced bullying as well and she and her friends got together and showed how they overcame this obstacle in their life. Don't take it, do something about it!

Female Bullies

Often times when we hear the word bully our natural instinct is to think of a male. Well actually female bullying is more severe and common  than male bullying. It's very rare that a female bully is alone. Female bullies often times roam around groups and pick on the same person. They usually try to target the girls who don't wear the same size clothes as them, carry the same handbag, or girls who are just a slight bit heavier. It doesn't stop there. These females will bully you because they want your boyfriend or anything that you have but you just have to stay strong and to remember to kill them with kindness. Once they see that you won't let them ruin you, they will quit and leave you alone. The sad part is that they'll find another victim.

Warning Signs

There are many warning signs that may indicate that someone is affected by bullying—either being bullied or bullying others. Recognizing the warning signs is an important first step in taking action against bullying. Not all children who are bullied or are bullying others ask for help.
It is important to talk with children who show signs of being bullied or bullying others. These warning signs can also point to other issues or problems, such as depression or substance abuse. Talking to the child can help identify the root of the problem.

Here are few things to look for to determine whether or not someone is being bullied:

• Unexplainable injuries
• Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry
• Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
• Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch.
• Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
• Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school
• Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
• Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem
• Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicidal.

I ask that you pay close attention to these signs so it can be stopped immediately.

Boys Can Be Cheerleaders Too

As you will see in this youtube clip, a boy kills himself after being bullied because he was a male cheerleader. As you see in today's society there are plenty of male cheerleaders at colleges and universities. There is no need for them to be bullied due to their choice. Not everyone is athletic and able to play the sport so they just simply cheer them on. The name calling and bullying has got to stop.

Keep Your Head Up

Always remember this. Keep your head held high and don't let anyone bring you down. Continue to excel in whatever you're doing.You are in control of your own destiny.

Words Hurt

I'm sure we have all heard the saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" but they truth is that words hurt.  People fail to realize that what they say and how they say it can hurt someones feelings. Words begin to hurt someone because they begin to alter the way they view themselves and often times that can lead to their self esteem dropping.  Phrases that that devalue or demean you hurt as well. These phrases let people know they don't care what they do or makes them feel like a fool sometimes. At the end of the day we all need to work on what we say to one another and how we say it because believe it or not words do hurt.

Parent Bullying

The majority of the time when people think about bullying, you mainly think about two people the same age bullying each other in some way or another.  Very seldom is it thought that parents bully their children, but it does happen, more than you know.  However, I am not referring to physical bullying by parents; I am referring to emotional and mental bullying by parents.  Physical bullying is more recognized, but less common; emotional and mental bullying is identified more with parents who bully because they think it doesn’t leave scars. 

Emotional and mental bullying works by using methods of demeaning speech and other techniques that are meant to help the bully feel superior.  A parent, however is not trying to feel superior to their child they are trying to use this as a tactic to motivate their children by being sarcastic.  This tactic can be especially damaging, because it can encourage a child to think ill of himself/herself. Mental scars can emerge that can result in depression, as well as make it difficult for the child to develop and sustain healthy relationships going forward.  Certainly, if a child learns how to treat people from the example of a bullying parent, he or she is likely to develop into a bully as well.

Handling a parent bully can prove to be difficult. Parents do not take kindly to someone interfering with their parenting, so this subject must be approached with caution.  The first thing you should try is to talk to the parent and try to work out the differences. If that is not successful, it is a good idea to talk to some sort of authority at the school, another relative, or a clergy member.  It is important that parent bullying be stopped, especially since it can be damaging to the long term psyche of the child.

-Takoma Peppers, parent of two children

A parent in Prior Lake Minnesota speaks out about his teen daughter who just happens to be African American being bullied buy two white twins via Snapchat. This is a prime example of hpw teens can use social media harass to each other.

They're Simply Haters

Today I went and visited the children's hospital in Greenville Sc and i had the opportunity to meet a little girl name Meredith. Meredith is just eight years and just finished her chemo therapy but told me she was very nervous about returning to school. I asked her why she would be nervous to be around all of her friends again and she because some of them would tease her about not having any hair. So i simply told her this,  I said " Meredith no matter what people tell you are beautiful. They are simply jealous of you and they are nothing but haters. You continue to brighten everyone's day with that million dollar smile of yours and you'll be just fine." She grinned ear to ear after I told her this and said she couldn't wait to start her summer program on Monday.

My Hometown..

As you will see in this video parents too can also bully. What some parents may think is discipline can actually be more to their child and may result in a terrible tragedy like this one.

Speaking Up

Most people who are being bullied tend to not speak up about it. they think they will be looked at differently or judged. Well that is not the case. It is perfectly fine to speak up and talk to someone about your current situation. Often times they can help comfort and give you great advice on how to keep pushing forward and how to deal with it. Nobody is going to judge you and make your situation worst than what it already is. If you are being bullied at school you can always go talk to an administrator or your guidance counselor. Most people usually talk to their guidance counselor first before talking to administrator, hoping that the guidance counselor can stop the bullying before it reaches the very next level. You can always go to your parents and your local authorities if it reaches the level. All that matters is that you speak up and that you don't let your or anyone else situation go unheard.

Why and How to Stop Bullies

My Childhood Experiences

When I was elementary school I was often picked on because of my size. I wasn't the skinniest or the fastest and I definitely wasn't the most athletic. If i had to choose a word to describe myself  during these years i would say husky. I wasn't obese but I was fat. I also suffered from very bad bronchitis so the kids would often take things from me and take off running because they knew I couldn't chase them for long

When recess came around I would always want to play the same sports as all the other athletic kids but they never chose me. They always told me to run on the track to lose weight and that's when I decided to change. I began exercising and playing sports to slim up and be accepted as I was growing up.

Are You A Victim Of Bullying?

If you're being bullied it can be helpful to talk to an adult you can trust, so they can help it to stop. Some people find a teacher they can confide in, other people choose a parent or a relative. Here are a few things you could do to help yourself and help the bullying to stop:

-Try to look calm and/or remain calm during this situation. Often times bullies look for emotions and expressions whidh makes them want to continue. 

-Think about where/ when the bullying occurs? Are there any ways you can avoid this area or those people? 

- Join clubs. Take self defense classes or martial arts. If worst comes to worst you'll have to defend yourself if the bullying intensifies. 

-If they are sending you messages via email or text threatening your life, save them and show authorities that way they can settle it. 

I hope anybody who is a victim of bullying will find these few tips helpful in anyway.

It can be helpful to talk to an adult you can trust, so they can help it to stop. Some people find a teacher they can confide in, other people choose a parent or a relative. You can also phone places like ChildLine, (0800-1111) for advice or support. ChildLine is there to listen, to help you talk about anything you need to.  Your call will be confidential unless they think that you or someone else is in  danger or at risk of harm. You can call from a home phone, mobile or phone box, and the calls are free. The number won’t show up on bills if you are phoning from a mobile or home phone, so nobody will know that you have called. If you don’t feel that you can talk to any of these people, you could look at the links on this Website under ‘Where to get help’. - See more at: http://www2.redbridge.gov.uk/cms/education_and_young_people/school_support_information/bullying/tips_if_youre_being_bullied.aspx#sthash.ToDIrZYp.dpuf

It can be helpful to talk to an adult you can trust, so they can help it to stop. Some people find a teacher they can confide in, other people choose a parent or a relative. You can also phone places like ChildLine, (0800-1111) for advice or support. ChildLine is there to listen, to help you talk about anything you need to.  Your call will be confidential unless they think that you or someone else is in  danger or at risk of harm. You can call from a home phone, mobile or phone box, and the calls are free. The number won’t show up on bills if you are phoning from a mobile or home phone, so nobody will know that you have called. If you don’t feel that you can talk to any of these people, you could look at the links on this Website under ‘Where to get help’. - See more at: http://www2.redbridge.gov.uk/cms/education_and_young_people/school_support_information/bullying/tips_if_youre_being_bullied.aspx#sthash.ToDIrZYp.dpuf

It can be helpful to talk to an adult you can trust, so they can help it to stop. Some people find a teacher they can confide in, other people choose a parent or a relative. You can also phone places like ChildLine, (0800-1111) for advice or support. ChildLine is there to listen, to help you talk about anything you need to.  Your call will be confidential unless they think that you or someone else is in  danger or at risk of harm. You can call from a home phone, mobile or phone box, and the calls are free. The number won’t show up on bills if you are phoning from a mobile or home phone, so nobody will know that you have called. If you don’t feel that you can talk to any of these people, you could look at the links on this Website under ‘Where to get help’. - See more at: http://www2.redbridge.gov.uk/cms/education_and_young_people/school_support_information/bullying/tips_if_youre_being_bullied.aspx#sthash.ToDIrZYp.dpuf

It can be helpful to talk to an adult you can trust, so they can help it to stop. Some people find a teacher they can confide in, other people choose a parent or a relative. You can also phone places like ChildLine, (0800-1111) for advice or support. ChildLine is there to listen, to help you talk about anything you need to.  Your call will be confidential unless they think that you or someone else is in  danger or at risk of harm. You can call from a home phone, mobile or phone box, and the calls are free. The number won’t show up on bills if you are phoning from a mobile or home phone, so nobody will know that you have called. If you don’t feel that you can talk to any of these people, you could look at the links on this Website under ‘Where to get help’. - See more at: http://www2.redbridge.gov.uk/cms/education_and_young_people/school_support_information/bullying/tips_if_youre_being_bullied.aspx#sthash.ToDIrZYp.dpuf

It can be helpful to talk to an adult you can trust, so they can help it to stop. Some people find a teacher they can confide in, other people choose a parent or a relative. You can also phone places like ChildLine, (0800-1111) for advice or support. ChildLine is there to listen, to help you talk about anything you need to.  Your call will be confidential unless they think that you or someone else is in  danger or at risk of harm. You can call from a home phone, mobile or phone box, and the calls are free. The number won’t show up on bills if you are phoning from a mobile or home phone, so nobody will know that you have called. If you don’t feel that you can talk to any of these people, you could look at the links on this Website under ‘Where to get help’. - See more at: http://www2.redbridge.gov.uk/cms/education_and_young_people/school_support_information/bullying/tips_if_youre_being_bullied.aspx#sthash.ToDIrZYp.dpuf

It can be helpful to talk to an adult you can trust, so they can help it to stop. Some people find a teacher they can confide in, other people choose a parent or a relative. You can also phone places like ChildLine, (0800-1111) for advice or support. ChildLine is there to listen, to help you talk about anything you need to.  Your call will be confidential unless they think that you or someone else is in  danger or at risk of harm. You can call from a home phone, mobile or phone box, and the calls are free. The number won’t show up on bills if you are phoning from a mobile or home phone, so nobody will know that you have called. If you don’t feel that you can talk to any of these people, you could look at the links on this Website under ‘Where to get help’. - See more at: http://www2.redbridge.gov.uk/cms/education_and_young_people/school_support_information/bullying/tips_if_youre_being_bullied.aspx#sthash.ToDIrZYp.dpuf

Why People Bully?

There are numerous reasons for why people bully in our society today. Some people bully because they aren't happy at home or at the workplace. Others may bully because they are feeling neglected and not receiving the attention that they need so they look to other people to take their anger out on. Another reason people bully is for the simple fact that some just like the feeling of being in control, they're fueled by power.

Children who experience social rejection themselves are more likely to 'pass it on' to others. Children who experience academic failure are also more likely to bully others. Issues that may seem so petty or little to someone can be the reason behind someone being bullied because often times it's being overlooked or swept under the rug and it's time for that to change.

What Is Bullying?

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among children and/or adults. This behavior normally doesn't happen just once and often time is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose. Although bullying can be physical and verbal, it can also be sexual and emotional. There is no such thing as 'accidentally bullying' someone. Bullying is very deliberate and done on purpose to cause some form of harm upon ones life.